It’s Wednesday so that means it’s question time. It’s time to ponder and then answer just one question. Okay, you can add all you want as a reason for your answer too. We’d all like that.
So here’s this weeks question: If someone wrongs you do you get even or do you eliminate them from your life?
I used to be more of a get even type, but I don’t care anymore. If you’re a close family member or friend I’ll say something about how I feel. If it’s an acquaintance then you’re pretty much out of my life. I will not go out of my way to engage that person.
52 thoughts on “Wednesdays Question”
I'm definitely an eliminator! I just won't be bothered with anyone I do not respect or trust.
And things are never really "even", are they? To get even you might have to do something you would not like having done to you… and then you'd have to live with that crap. No, thank you.
Have yourself a lovely day! big hugs xoxo
You are right about never getting really even. It's not worth the effort. I agree. 🙂
I'm with Barb. Have a super day. big hugs and love xxoxxx
Mollie and Alfie
Me too. You have a super day and big hugs and love back. 🙂
I don't know what I would do. Guess it depends on what the wrong consisted of. But great question. Sandee, you and Zane and Little Bit have a great day.
You're not a mean person Marg. You'd let it go. I know you would. 🙂
I eliminate the individual. They weren't that important if they wronged you so doesn't make any difference. Life is so short to let anyone create a mess for your life. I know.
Have a wonderful Wednesday Sandee. Enjoy the day, the week, the month and so on. See you my good friend. See ya.
Elimination is the best approach. I just did this with someone in our yacht club. A toxic waste dump. 🙂
I avoid people who do wrong to me. Ignore minor offences.However ifthe person is in danger I will not hesitate to help him out. I haven't developed strong feelings of love and hatred towards anyone in my life.
Have a great day!
I've always known you are a wise man. 🙂
I guess it depends on how wrong the `wrong` is.
If it is something minor I would tell them about it.
Something major, like identity theft, their out!
I agree Michelle. I agree. 🙂
I have Venus in Scorpio……..if you know ANYTHING at all about Scorpios (I am a Libra born on the cusp of Libra/Scorpio)….we NEVER overtly act out revenge….no siree……I would rather sit back, watch and let KARMA take care of it. It might take a while, but KARMA ALWAYS WINS. http://www.catchatwithcarenandcody.com and http://www.dakotasden.net
Karma can do a fine job at times and then other times it takes forever for it to kick in. 🙂
Life is to short to be keeping score. I typically move on. Getting even is not a source of happiness.
Moving on is best. The older I get the less I worry about these things. 🙂
No score keeping for me, but I typically avoid ppl I don't trust or for some reason don't like. There are too many good ppl to enjoy!
Big hugs, good ppl!
Big hugs back, good people. 🙂
I usually just eliminate them and not have anything to do with them again
Have a tanfastic day :-h
Wise thing to do Steve. 🙂
Eliminate and all too quickly! If it is someone I can't eliminate then we talk and find a solution.
My brother is no long welcome in our home. It was a matter of time before he physically assault one or both of us. We didn't want to take that chance at our ages. 🙂
I let it go when it's family or a close friend, but an acquaintance gets dropped from my radar for an egregious wrong. To quote Sweet Brown, "Ain't Nobody Got Time For That."
I love the quote. It's spot on. 🙂
I lean more now to just eliminating them from my life, but I'M not above getting even if the opportunity presents itself.
As we get older we change don't we. For the better too. 🙂
I completely agree with your strategy, Sandee. If a family member steps on my toes – they hear about it. If you're a friend and you wrong me – then you probably won't be seeing me for a mighty long time …. maybe even never again. 🙂
Well, how could anyone be mean to you. I'm just saying. 🙂
It depends on what the wrong is because sometimes I stew about it and make myself miserable while avoiding the person or I speak my mind and clear the air right then and there. It also depends on who did it and how tired I am. Today, I'm so tired someone would get an earful if they wronged me! MOL!
Hope your having a perfectly 'right' day Sandee! Smooches to Little Bit!
I hope nobody crosses you today. I'm just saying. 🙂
I too agree, I would say something rather than let it fester with family, However, if someone has wronged me, I tell them how I feel and go my own way, never to have contact with them again. Karma steps in!
Yep, pretty much what I do. Karma is a wonderful thing. 🙂
Eliminate to the best of my ability. I happen to be going through a situation at work with more than one person and my solution is to keep to myself do my job go home and stay away from the stupid game they're playing
Oh the workplace and be a toxic waste dump too can't it. Yes it can. I hope things get better. Like they quit. 🙂
Why waste energy on losers? I just move on after writing them off….I've only had two occasions where I had to do it- one former friend and actually one in-law that I have as little as possible contact. Thank god we moved.
On a lighter note-have a great day Sandee!
Yep, I've a brother I've not spoken to or seen in several years. It just had to be done. 🙂
My first thought is to try to make peace with that person. If that's not possible and it's someone you have to see, see him/her as little as possible and don't get into anything with him/her. If you don't have to see that person again, don't.
Trying to make peace is a good thing, but some folks are so toxic that you just can't have any kind of peace. 🙂
If it was a major wrong, then I'd eliminate them. But you could quickly end up with no one.
You've a point here Binky, but I don't think most folks are out to make your life miserable. Thank goodness. 🙂
I try to forgive and forget as much as I can. never thought of getting even as I believe that the Lord will do it for me anyway 🙂
You've a point here Rocks. 🙂
I have eliminated many people but after giving them several tries. I realized for my own sanity it's best to just walk away….and free yourself from that stress, worry, hurt. It works better for me.
I think it works better for most people. Life is too short to be saddled with toxic folks. 🙂
I write a blog post and name names.
Way to go Skip. That's a solution indeed. 🙂
They disappear. I no longer seek contact.
Yep, life is too short for these kind of folks in our lives. 🙂
I don’t know — depends on the “wrong” and if it’s likely to happen again. Family you can’t get rid of so mostly I take measures to make sure something doesn’t happen again. With friends,nobody is perfect so mostly I avoid a friend if it’s likely that that thing is likely to bug me like if I’m in a really irritable mood. I’ve one friend who is very critical in words but her actions are supportive — so if I’m having a “no confidence” day, I won’t see her because her words will just feed into my drop of confidence and make it harder to get back to “normal”. If I’m in a good mood or feeling very confident, then her words don’t effect me. I have friends whose words are supportive but they don’t do any supportive actions. I don’t think people can be or should be everything. I’m not perfect either. Some things are misunderstandings I think.
Sometimes we don’t understand. That’s true. They mean something different than the way we take it. Some are very open and say exactly what they mean. I just don’t have time for hateful people. 🙂
Yeah, I don’t get meanness. Life is too short for that.
Ironic, right after this I had a disagreement with a close friend. She’s got a good heart but her mouth needs work but she is elderly so it isn’t going to change. I like her a lot but I’m going to take a break for a week.