Wednesdays Question

It’s Wednesday so that means it’s question time. It’s time to ponder and then answer just one question. Okay, you can add all you want as a reason for your answer too. We’d all like that.

So here’s this weeks question: If someone wrongs you do you get even or do you eliminate them from your life?

I used to be more of a get even type, but I don’t care anymore. If you’re a close family member or friend I’ll say something about how I feel. If it’s an acquaintance then you’re pretty much out of my life. I will not go out of my way to engage that person.

  52 comments for “Wednesdays Question

  1. February 11, 2015 at 2:09 am

    I'm definitely an eliminator! I just won't be bothered with anyone I do not respect or trust.

    And things are never really "even", are they? To get even you might have to do something you would not like having done to you… and then you'd have to live with that crap. No, thank you.

    Have yourself a lovely day! big hugs xoxo

    • February 11, 2015 at 9:17 am

      You are right about never getting really even. It's not worth the effort. I agree. 🙂

  2. February 11, 2015 at 3:51 am

    I'm with Barb. Have a super day. big hugs and love xxoxxx

    Mollie and Alfie

    • February 11, 2015 at 9:18 am

      Me too. You have a super day and big hugs and love back. 🙂

  3. February 11, 2015 at 5:17 am

    I don't know what I would do. Guess it depends on what the wrong consisted of. But great question. Sandee, you and Zane and Little Bit have a great day.

    • February 11, 2015 at 9:19 am

      You're not a mean person Marg. You'd let it go. I know you would. 🙂

  4. February 11, 2015 at 5:25 am

    I eliminate the individual. They weren't that important if they wronged you so doesn't make any difference. Life is so short to let anyone create a mess for your life. I know.
    Have a wonderful Wednesday Sandee. Enjoy the day, the week, the month and so on. See you my good friend. See ya.

    Cruisin Paul

    • February 11, 2015 at 9:21 am

      Elimination is the best approach. I just did this with someone in our yacht club. A toxic waste dump. 🙂

  5. February 11, 2015 at 5:29 am

    I avoid people who do wrong to me. Ignore minor offences.However ifthe person is in danger I will not hesitate to help him out. I haven't developed strong feelings of love and hatred towards anyone in my life.
    Have a great day!

    • February 11, 2015 at 9:21 am

      I've always known you are a wise man. 🙂

  6. February 11, 2015 at 5:31 am

    I guess it depends on how wrong the `wrong` is.
    If it is something minor I would tell them about it.
    Something major, like identity theft, their out!

    • February 11, 2015 at 9:22 am

      I agree Michelle. I agree. 🙂

  7. February 11, 2015 at 5:42 am

    I have Venus in Scorpio……..if you know ANYTHING at all about Scorpios (I am a Libra born on the cusp of Libra/Scorpio)….we NEVER overtly act out revenge….no siree……I would rather sit back, watch and let KARMA take care of it. It might take a while, but KARMA ALWAYS WINS. and

    • February 11, 2015 at 9:57 am

      Karma can do a fine job at times and then other times it takes forever for it to kick in. 🙂

  8. February 11, 2015 at 7:20 am

    Life is to short to be keeping score. I typically move on. Getting even is not a source of happiness.

    • February 11, 2015 at 9:58 am

      Moving on is best. The older I get the less I worry about these things. 🙂

  9. February 11, 2015 at 8:52 am

    No score keeping for me, but I typically avoid ppl I don't trust or for some reason don't like. There are too many good ppl to enjoy!

    Big hugs, good ppl!

    • February 11, 2015 at 9:59 am

      Big hugs back, good people. 🙂

  10. February 11, 2015 at 9:21 am

    I usually just eliminate them and not have anything to do with them again

    Have a tanfastic day :-h

    • February 11, 2015 at 9:59 am

      Wise thing to do Steve. 🙂

  11. February 11, 2015 at 9:26 am

    Eliminate and all too quickly! If it is someone I can't eliminate then we talk and find a solution.

    • February 11, 2015 at 10:00 am

      My brother is no long welcome in our home. It was a matter of time before he physically assault one or both of us. We didn't want to take that chance at our ages. 🙂

  12. February 11, 2015 at 9:37 am

    I let it go when it's family or a close friend, but an acquaintance gets dropped from my radar for an egregious wrong. To quote Sweet Brown, "Ain't Nobody Got Time For That."

    • February 11, 2015 at 10:01 am

      I love the quote. It's spot on. 🙂

  13. February 11, 2015 at 9:59 am

    I lean more now to just eliminating them from my life, but I'M not above getting even if the opportunity presents itself.

    • February 11, 2015 at 10:01 am

      As we get older we change don't we. For the better too. 🙂

  14. February 11, 2015 at 10:25 am

    I completely agree with your strategy, Sandee. If a family member steps on my toes – they hear about it. If you're a friend and you wrong me – then you probably won't be seeing me for a mighty long time …. maybe even never again. 🙂

    • February 11, 2015 at 11:03 am

      Well, how could anyone be mean to you. I'm just saying. 🙂

  15. February 11, 2015 at 1:33 pm

    It depends on what the wrong is because sometimes I stew about it and make myself miserable while avoiding the person or I speak my mind and clear the air right then and there. It also depends on who did it and how tired I am. Today, I'm so tired someone would get an earful if they wronged me! MOL!

    Hope your having a perfectly 'right' day Sandee! Smooches to Little Bit!

    • February 11, 2015 at 5:03 pm

      I hope nobody crosses you today. I'm just saying. 🙂

  16. February 11, 2015 at 1:47 pm

    I too agree, I would say something rather than let it fester with family, However, if someone has wronged me, I tell them how I feel and go my own way, never to have contact with them again. Karma steps in!

    • February 11, 2015 at 5:04 pm

      Yep, pretty much what I do. Karma is a wonderful thing. 🙂

  17. February 11, 2015 at 1:57 pm

    Eliminate to the best of my ability. I happen to be going through a situation at work with more than one person and my solution is to keep to myself do my job go home and stay away from the stupid game they're playing

    • February 11, 2015 at 5:32 pm

      Oh the workplace and be a toxic waste dump too can't it. Yes it can. I hope things get better. Like they quit. 🙂

  18. February 11, 2015 at 5:49 pm

    Why waste energy on losers? I just move on after writing them off….I've only had two occasions where I had to do it- one former friend and actually one in-law that I have as little as possible contact. Thank god we moved.
    On a lighter note-have a great day Sandee!

    • February 12, 2015 at 11:46 am

      Yep, I've a brother I've not spoken to or seen in several years. It just had to be done. 🙂

  19. February 11, 2015 at 6:01 pm

    My first thought is to try to make peace with that person. If that's not possible and it's someone you have to see, see him/her as little as possible and don't get into anything with him/her. If you don't have to see that person again, don't.

    • February 12, 2015 at 11:47 am

      Trying to make peace is a good thing, but some folks are so toxic that you just can't have any kind of peace. 🙂

  20. February 11, 2015 at 6:32 pm

    If it was a major wrong, then I'd eliminate them. But you could quickly end up with no one.

    • February 12, 2015 at 11:47 am

      You've a point here Binky, but I don't think most folks are out to make your life miserable. Thank goodness. 🙂

  21. February 11, 2015 at 7:51 pm

    I try to forgive and forget as much as I can. never thought of getting even as I believe that the Lord will do it for me anyway 🙂

    • February 12, 2015 at 11:47 am

      You've a point here Rocks. 🙂

  22. February 11, 2015 at 11:49 pm

    I have eliminated many people but after giving them several tries. I realized for my own sanity it's best to just walk away….and free yourself from that stress, worry, hurt. It works better for me.

    • February 12, 2015 at 11:48 am

      I think it works better for most people. Life is too short to be saddled with toxic folks. 🙂

  23. February 12, 2015 at 8:52 am

    I write a blog post and name names.

    • February 12, 2015 at 11:48 am

      Way to go Skip. That's a solution indeed. 🙂

  24. February 12, 2015 at 11:15 am

    They disappear. I no longer seek contact.

    • February 12, 2015 at 11:49 am

      Yep, life is too short for these kind of folks in our lives. 🙂

  25. MNL
    July 8, 2018 at 12:02 am

    I don’t know — depends on the “wrong” and if it’s likely to happen again. Family you can’t get rid of so mostly I take measures to make sure something doesn’t happen again. With friends,nobody is perfect so mostly I avoid a friend if it’s likely that that thing is likely to bug me like if I’m in a really irritable mood. I’ve one friend who is very critical in words but her actions are supportive — so if I’m having a “no confidence” day, I won’t see her because her words will just feed into my drop of confidence and make it harder to get back to “normal”. If I’m in a good mood or feeling very confident, then her words don’t effect me. I have friends whose words are supportive but they don’t do any supportive actions. I don’t think people can be or should be everything. I’m not perfect either. Some things are misunderstandings I think.

    • Comedy Plus
      July 8, 2018 at 7:09 am

      Sometimes we don’t understand. That’s true. They mean something different than the way we take it. Some are very open and say exactly what they mean. I just don’t have time for hateful people. 🙂

      • MNL
        July 8, 2018 at 12:50 pm

        Yeah, I don’t get meanness. Life is too short for that.

      • MNL
        July 9, 2018 at 6:18 pm

        Ironic, right after this I had a disagreement with a close friend. She’s got a good heart but her mouth needs work but she is elderly so it isn’t going to change. I like her a lot but I’m going to take a break for a week.

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